Book Review: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect
Tanmay Vora
A few weeks back, my friend Becky Robinson at Mountain State University gifted me with a copy of John C. Maxwell’s latest book “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect”. The book, as the title suggests, is all about establishing meaningful connections to build great relationships at work and in personal life. The book introduction says,
“Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate with them in a way that increases your influence with them. And the ability to communicate and connect with others is a major determining factor in reaching your potential. to be successful, you must work with others. To do that at your absolute best, you must learn to connect”
It was interesting to note the difference between “communication” and “connection”. I learned that communication is about content and connection is about relevance of that content and how it is received by others. Connecting with others is more than just transactional communication. It is about seeing others as human beings, understanding them, their energies and establish a deeper connection.
I have observed that all great “performers” are great connectors too. A singer has to understand the taste of audience and sing accordingly. A trainer has to connect with participants. An actor has to truly connect with the character being played. A blogger has to connect with the readers. An organization needs to connect with the customers.
Ability to build meaningful connections is the first step towards engaging others and building an influence. Connecting with others accelerates learning and spreads the ideas.
Maxwell’s book offers useful ideas for connecting with a group, connecting one-on-one and connecting with audience. The book does not offer any ground breaking ideas – we all know that we need to connect effectively. Still, the book does a GREAT job of outlining and reinforcing the fundamentals of connecting through explanations, stories and action points at the end of each chapter.
If you are a leader, an aspiring one or a professional who wants to make a big difference, this is a great book to pick up and read.
Have a GREAT week ahead!
Very nice topic brought to scene.
Communication is more of theoritical aspect whereas Connect is a practical phenomenon.
Though communication in most cases ignites a relation base, connection actually forms it.
Thanks for sharing the content Tanmay.
Have a good productive weekend!
Regards,
Jay Chhaya
@Jay – Good point there. Communication is the starting point of all relationships. Ability to connect takes it further. You too have a great week ahead!
Best,
Tanmay
Very interesting content.
I understands that the core part of having connecting is to have good and interesting communication.
Thanks for sharing this content and great ideas, this is the reason we are more connected to your blog. 🙂
@Anil – Thanks for the comment. Connecting is more than just doing interesting communication. Many people can do that. The point is – does that content interest others? Is it in line with what they are looking for? Does it have the power to bring about a positive change in the other person? Does it genuinely help him in his current context? When content of communication does that, connection happens.
Best,
Tanmay
Its the crucial point. real difference between communication and connection. Connecting people is essential.
Megha
@Megha – Thanks for the comment and continued support. Yes, leader connects people (with each other) and leaders connect with each member of the team.
Best,
Tanmay